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Why It is Important to Understand Frailty—Whether You are 30, 50 or 75

January 14, 2018 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: Health, It's Not For Sissies

Loss of muscle mass begins early. We lose as much as 3% to 5% of muscle mass each decade after age 30. Frailty is the top reason seniors seek medical care.

Did you know that U.S. seniors use more of all healthcare-related spending than any over demographic–about 34%. Yet we only make up about 15% of the population here. Frailty is the #1 reason seniors seek medical care.

But what is frailty? This is part 1 of a two-part post. In the first part, we’ll look at the definition of frailty, how it affects us as we age, and one important symptom. In part 2, we’ll focus on how it is diagnosed.

What Frailty Means to the Public

To most of us, frailty simply means a person who is weakening, and who is less able to take care of their own needs. The dictionary agrees and simply says that frailty is a condition of being weak and delicate.

In reality, though, frailty begins much earlier than our senior years; and the medical community has a much more extensive and complex definition.

What Frailty Means to the Medical Community

According to the Review Annales de Gerontologie, Authors Jean-Pierre Michel. Pierre-Olivier Lang, and Dina Zekry say that “Frailty is an extended process of increasing vulnerability, predisposing [one] to functional decline and ultimately leading to death. The clinician encounters different presentations of frailty, because of the combination of factors such (as) age, gender, lifestyle, socio-economic background, co-morbidities, and affective, cognitive, or sensory impairments.“

Frailty is a condition, a medical syndrome, or a group of symptoms that collectively characterize it as a disease. It is also important to understand that some elderly never get frail.

How Does Frailty Affect Old Age

Frailty appears as an age-related physical vulnerability resulting from an impaired homeostatic reserve.  Homeostasis here means the tendency of the body to maintain stability as it compensates for changes such as diseases, broken bones, etc. This word (homeostasis) will be used repeatedly throughout this post.

The body is a marvelous machine, always repairing itself; but as our body becomes less able to withstand stress, it becomes unstable, leading to a higher risk of frailty-related complications such as falls, functional decline, multiple medications, an increased risk of hospitalization, cross infection, institutionalization, and eventually death.

One is pre-frail when one has physiological reserves sufficient to respond adequately to acute diseases, injury, or stress. Here, the patient recovers completely.

One is frail, though, when one has incomplete recovery after any new acute disease, injury, or stress. I have recurring back problems and using this definition; I wonder if I could be diagnosed as some degree of frail?

What my Doctor Prescribed

My doctor suggested that I was losing too much muscle mass. He prescribed drinking a protein shake immediately after any type of exercise, as well as lifting weights. He was especially concerned about my legs. You can read more about him here.

I paid attention to the problem, but decided that more walking would do the trick. I also ditched the protein powder. I was wrong. After three months, he measured, and I came up far short.

Dr. Emhof wanted to see me again in another three months to measure my progress. Each time, he used a body composition monitor to measure muscle mass throughout my body.

So in three months, I was back and had made only a little progress.  He stressed weight training again– five reps of 15 or more—about a 15-minute workout at least two times a week.  Begrudgingly, I joined a gym for the first time in twenty years.

What Leads to Loss of Muscle Mass

Loss of muscle mass begins early. As we engage in lesser activities, this leads to a loss of as much as 3% to 5% of muscle mass each decade after age 30. This lessens our strength and mobility.

Remember the term homeostasis? Well, our body’s damage repair processes start out superb, but as time goes by the damages accumulate. The repair process wanes. As a lot of things go wrong, everything doubles and the body cannot repair itself.

According to medical science, our muscles grow and strengthen until about age 30, but then the process reverses itself. We lose muscle mass and function, losing some muscle mass even if we remain active.

What does Loss of Muscle Mass Lead to

The medical term for this is sarcopenia, and this process typically happens faster around the age of 75, though it can begin as early as 65. Loss of muscle mass is a characteristic of frailty.

Also around the age of 75, a person’s overall health can spiral downward, leading to weakness and loss of stamina. Physical inactivity increases and muscle mass declines faster. This is most prevalent in those of us who are inactive, but it can affect active adults too.

This causes other symptoms, such as a reduction of the nerve cells that normally signal our brain to begin movement. There can also be a decrease in hormones, such as testosterone. Loss of muscle mass can lead to a body’s inability to turn protein into energy, and even more important, an inability to get enough protein and calories a day to build body mass. We notice this when an individual stops eating and begins to lose weight.

In the next segment of this post, we’ll talk more about muscle mass, what to look for, and how to reverse its loss. We will also talk about how doctors measure frailty.

Do you worry about being frail and losing your strength and balance as you get older? Is the loss of muscle mass something that is affecting you in your 60s? Please share your observations in the comments below.

Confessions of a Woman Who Wears Hearing Aids

October 16, 2017 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: Health, It's Not For Sissies

Not many people know it, (and now everyone will), but I occasionally wear hearing aids.

Not for everyday use, but for when I am in a crowded situation where people have to talk and listen to each other.

I got my hearing aids about two years before I retired, and I’ve been retired a little over three years now.

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Why Hearing Aids

I noticed that I struggled to hear everyone, especially in a meeting with 15 to 25 people sitting around a large table or in a noisy restaurant. It was imperative at the time that I be able to hear the conversations in order to respond, in order to do my job; but I was losing that ability.

Since then I’ve learned that anyone older than 45 has a one in five chance of suffering some degree of hearing loss. That increases to one in three by the age of 65. By 75, it is one in two. All of this is according to the National Institute on Deafness and Other Communication Disorders.

I finally went to see an audiologist to have my hearing checked. She put me in a booth and asked if I could hear an entire range of frequencies. Finally, I was fitted for a pair of hearing aids, and my hearing aids were ordered.

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I learned that my hearing loss was in both ears, although my right one is worse than the left.

Two Types of Hearing Loss

Most hearing loss is sensorineural or caused by damage to the tiny hair cells that line our inner ears. These cells convert sound waves into electrical signals for our brains to decipher into meaningful sounds.

Aging plays an important role, but so could exposure to loud noises. Other reasons can be medications, illnesses, and a family history of hearing loss.

My Grandfather Gillespie lost his hearing as a child due to a childhood disease. All he could hear using hearing aids was vibrations. He used them and lip reading to understand us.

Sensorineural hearing loss is usually not reversible, but using hearing aids can help by selectively amplifying sounds. My hearing loss falls in this category. I shot guns for most of my life, first hunting with my father and later being a part of a Trap and Skeet League for competition.

We were encouraged to wear hearing protection, and required to do so during training and competition; but being young, immortal, and basically stupid, I ditched the requirement as soon as I was away from the referees. I shot a shotgun right handed and my biggest hearing loss is in my left ear, which is normal for a right-handed shooter.

I also loved my rock and roll loud. And I think you get the point.

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The other type of hearing loss is conductive. It occurs as a result of a physical blockage or malformation of the middle or outer ear. Something like impacted earwax or a fluid buildup from infection can block sound from reaching the inner ear. Most of the time this type of hearing loss is reversible.

Is Sensorineural Hearing Loss Reversible

The answer is no. I found out that once the hair cells in my inner ear were dead, there was no bringing them back. My hearing aids were fine-tuned to match my specific hearing-loss. I did not pay, though to have them syned wirelessly with my smartphone. They were expensive enough without this feature.

Mine is a mini-behind-the-ear model. It has a receiver in the ear canal. It attaches to the ear via a thin wire and an earmold or piece of soft material made to fit snugly in the ear and to channel sound. I find it comfortable and barely visible even with my short hair.

The only drawback is that wax buildup does occur on the earmold. I simply remove most of it with my fingers. This type of hearing device works best with my problems for hearing higher frequencies. The earpiece allows some sound in, which is good because I do not need help hearing the lower frequencies. Thankfully, I must have not turned the bass up on my car radio.

Buying Hearing Aids

Most insurance does not cover hearing aids. In the US Medicare Advantage, though, may cover them.

My aids came with a contract that allowed me to return them and get most of my money back if I was not satisfied. Ask about economy hearing aids and ask your provider to compare your performance on speech-in-noise tests using both a premium aid and an economy aid. Also ask your provider to check if your health insurance policy will pay. Some of you may even have a homeowner’s policy that will pay. Check yours.

See if your audiologist carries more than a few brands. It won’t hurt to ask for a lower-priced model. You can also ask for a price break by negotiating a lower price.

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Costco offers free screenings at select locations, and their prices are competitive. Did you know that 16 percent of all Americans buy their hearing aids from Costco? Certain Costco stores have an on-site audiologist or hearing specialist.

Buying aids online can help you save, too. I didn’t go this route, though, because I wondered how the adjustment phase would go. I also wondered if I would have to find a local hearing specialist to help me.

There are organizations that may offer help–governmental, state or independent groups like the Lions Club.

Finally, it is possible that the US Congress may help. According to a New York Times article Congress is considering an “over the counter” option. It reads, “That, at least, represents the future envisioned by supporters of the Over-the-Counter Hearing Aid Act of 2017, which would give the Food and Drug Administration three years to create a regulatory category for such devices and to establish standards for safety, effectiveness and labeling.” If this passes, the marketplace should kick in and prices could drop as low as say $300 per ear.

How Often Do I Wear Mine?

Now that I’m retired, I don’t use my hearing aids as often; but they stay in my purse, waiting for when I do need them. Normally, I get them out in noisy restaurants or when a person’s voice is at a frequency that I can’t hear well. I’ve gotten really quick at inserting them. I do it publicly and most people don’t notice; or if they do, they do not inquire.

 

I am also super careful about my hearing now. I don’t wear my hearing aids to concerts or to watch TV. For concerts, I wear good quality ear plugs. Guess what? They play the music so loud that I can hear them just fine. Amazing! I also make sure I wear protection when I work with firearms, as I still do from time to time.

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Here’s what I’ve noticed most about wearing my hearing aids. I get a lot of background noise that I’m not used to hearing. It’s amazing what sounds I pick up that I never noticed I lost. With my type of hearing loss it is the metallic sounds that I no longer hear well.

Also, if all the noise in a room is coming from one side, I only put a hearing aid in the other ear. I find that I can hear people better that way. Most hearing aids cannot completely remove background noise and allow you to hear people selectively. I guess you can surmise that using hearing aids is different for everyone.

Love the Quietness of Growing Old

There’s actually a positive side to hearing loss. My own has created an atmosphere that is overall quieter. I have to admit that I’m more comfortable without my hearing aids, but like the other day when I was at lunch with a table full of former lobbyists, I quickly realized I was having trouble understanding people so I got them out and inserted them in my ears. I could hear everyone just fine.

In closing there is a Hearing Aid Buying Guide that I found helpful. You can find it here. Good old ‘Consumer Reports’does it again. I’ve turned to them for help with all manner of our purchases.

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When Should You See a Neurologist for Memory Loss?

July 31, 2017 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: Family Life, It's Not For Sissies

My husband has memory loss. It is getting more advanced lately, so we finally went to see a doctor.

It started out with memory lapses. Sometimes, Chuck asked the same question like ‘where is the rake.’ It would be where it always was, but I would tell him anyway. Then a few minutes later after getting distracted for a moment he would say, “Where’s the rake?”

It came more frequently, and then it got quite unsettling. I tried to joke about it, as I did when I wrote a blog post called, “Driving in the Fast Lane” a few years ago. You can read it here.

I learned that it gets worse when someone is stressed. Both of our jobs were super stressful.

We even lost a client once. Chuck totally forgot that we were under orders to not do something. He not only broke the orders in an email while working late one night, but then totally forgot that he did it.

When it hit the fan several days later and we were searching for who let the cat out of the bag, Chuck told me he had no idea. As far as I can tell this man didn’t even lie to his parents as a teenager. He is that honest. I knew because of his past behavior that he didn’t remember doing it at all. He retired within a few months after this incident, though at the age of 70 he was phasing out clients anyway.

Lately, I noticed that he kept getting lost while out driving. I’ve become his GPS when he drives. I constantly have to say “turn left here” or “turn right there.” If I don’t all of a sudden I look up and we’re four blocks in the wrong direction. And these are on streets he’s been driving for years.

By last fall he seemed to have entered a new phase. He remembers things that never happened. We went west for vacation, and he had only been in this area once in his life as a young twenty something on a long trip across America with a college friend. He kept asking me, “Don’t you remember this? We’ve been here. I even remember this waitress.” I’m thinking, “Boy, she aged well.” We had never been there.

Chuck has always had memory problems somewhat. We both have. Our jobs required great concentration, and we were both good at our work. Writing legislative language and negotiating our client’s way through the complex political morass in our state required much thought. We lived in our heads.

Our kids even knew how to break this concentration. I remember the girls placing their hands on each side of Chuck’s face and saying “Chuck!” loudly and forcefully when they wanted to make sure he was listening.

But what was good for our careers isn’t worth a tinker’s damn for our current life as retirees. We need to be more in the moment, which brings me to what Chuck is currently going through.

A Visit with A Neurologist

About two months ago, he visited a neurologist. I tagged along because it was important both of us hear what the doctor had to say. This was apparent by the time we got home, because all Chuck heard was that he was fine.

His doctor asked Chuck a series of verbal questions, designed to help him determine and diagnose Chuck’s situation. Afterwards, the doctor had good news. He said it is not Alzheimers or dementia; but to rule out anything else like a brain tumor he ordered an MRI.

He also thinks that Chuck doesn’t get enough quality sleep. Chuck twitches and jerks all night long, so we wonder if he really gets enough rest. He suggested a CPAP for Chuck.

The doctor did talk to us about being in the moment. He said that Chuck needed to retrain his brain to pay more attention. He mentioned games and crossword puzzles.

A List of Things to Do

When we got home, all Chuck remembered was that the doctor said he was fine. He totally forgot the MRI, the CPAP, or the changes he needed to make to retrain his brain.

So I found an app called ENHANCE and got him started working with it daily. Also, I think games will help. We both played a little bridge when we were young so we may want to try to take it up again. Chess might be an option, too.

We will start with something very simple, though, which will help us both. I tend to live in my head too much, too.

When to See Your Doctor

If you’re concerned about memory loss, see your doctor. He or she can conduct tests to judge the degree of memory impairment and diagnose the cause.

He or she will have a number of questions for you, and it is important to have a family member or friend along to answer some questions based on his or her observations. Questions such as:

• How long have you been having memory problems?
• What medications do you take regularly including prescriptions, over the counter and vitamins?
• What tasks are difficult to perform?
• What have you done for your memory problems? Have these helped?
• Have you recently been ill? What medicine did you take?
• Have you fallen and injured your head?
• If you drink alcohol, how much do you drink daily?
• Have you felt sad, depressed, or anxious lately?
• Have you experienced a major loss, change, or stressful event in your life?
• What is your daily routine? How has your routine changed lately?

The questions are designed to help your doctor test your memory and other thinking skills. He or she may also order blood tests and brain-imaging tests like Chuck’s MRI that can help identify reversible causes of memory problems.

Seeing a Specialist

Your general practitioner may refer you to a specialist in diagnosing dementia or memory disorders, such as a neurologist, psychiatrist, psychologist, or geriatrician. Chuck was sent to a neurologist, a physician who specializes in problems related to the brain and central nervous system.

This specialist will try to identify any reversible cause of memory impairment so that you get appropriate treatment.

Stress, anxiety, or depression can cause memory loss and make a person more forgetful. Early on while Chuck was still working, we could tell that stress caused him the most problems. Also, dealing with life changes can leave a person confused or forgetful. Retirement or the loss of a spouse can do this, too.

Retraining the Brain

The doctor made suggestions on how to retrain the brain and how to help Chuck’s brain retain new information. He wants Chuck to try to reconnect the circuits in his brain–the ones that he stopped using when he focused on what was in his head instead of what was in the present.

For example, he suggested that Chuck practice doing only one thing at a time. He also suggested he work on avoiding distractions. Easier said than done. How many times have I seen something on my way to completing a task. I am like a dog who sees a squirrel. Squirrel!! And then I’m off in the opposite direction doing something else.

The other day while in our bedroom, I remembered that I needed to add an event to my calendar in the office. Leaving the bedroom, I noticed several items in the hall that needed to be put up in the guest bath. I made the detour and then noticed some items in the bath that needed to go to the guest bedroom. So I made another detour, and I think you get the picture. By the time I remembered the appointment that needed to be added to the calendar, it was three days later…after the event.

Striving to Stay in the Moment

He also wants Chuck to fully concentrate on whatever he is doing. He advised him to stay in the moment and not think about what he is planning to do next or what he just did. This advice reminded me of Yoga, where we try to bring our minds into the room and leave behind the outside. I’m wondering if Yoga or meditation can help in brain training.

He also told Chuck that if he really needs to remember something to say it several times out loud. This can help him remember important pieces of information. In other words, he wants Chuck to practice remembering things.

Chuck and I are working to retrain our brains. Then Chuck will have another meeting with the neurologist in August. We’re hopeful.

Does anyone in your family suffer from memory loss? Would retraining the brain help or is it something more serious? What have you discovered from consulting with your doctor? Please share your experience in the comments.

A Cure for Social Isolation

July 21, 2017 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: Electronics & Technology, It's Not For Sissies

It occurred to me that we seniors suffer from two types of isolation–social isolation and technological isolation. I personally don’t have a problem with the former, but I do suffer from the latter.  Many seniors, though, have a problem with the social isolation, and our statistics reflect this.

According to the latest census, more than a quarter of us over 65 live alone. Unfortunately the percentage will only rise as we age, due to a natural progression of life. While not all seniors living alone are socially isolated, living alone certainly predisposes us to the condition of social isolation.

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Preparation for this Phase of Life

My mother-in-law must have instinctively known this. She was in her late 60s when Chuck’s father passed away.

By the time she was in her mid 70s she moved closer to two of her children, leaving behind a vibrant community of friends and neighbors. She explained that she thought it better to do the move at that age instead of later when she might be unable to make new friends as easily.  I believe she knew that social isolation would be a problem as she aged.

Her fortitude amazed us. Within a short time after the move she joined the local Woman’s Club and Tallahassee’s First Baptist Church. In no time, we were being introduced as Dody’s son and daughter-in-law. She made friends quickly and remained as active as she had been back in Fort Lauderdale.


Dody prepared for what she had to face, but losing people is a fact of life for all of us.

Losing Loved Ones–A Fact of Life

My Grandmother Roe used to lament about how she was the last one left in

her rather large immediate family. One of the older siblings, she was the lone survivor of eight brothers and sisters. Also, her husband passed away 38 years before she did.

It is a fact of life that if we live long, many of our loved ones and friends will pass before us. This is another predisposing factor for social isolation. I guess what I’m trying to say is that it is an inevitable occurrence either for ourselves or someone we love.

Sometimes They Just Move Away

Sometimes, though, it doesn’t take a death to create the conditions for social isolation. This same grandmother was another case in point. She lived next door to us my entire childhood, so she had lots of social interaction coming from right next door.

But that all changed in the mid 1970s, about the time I left for college when the rest of my immediate family moved to central Florida. My father’s company promoted him to a company-wide supervisory position, but it required the family to move away. It left my grandmother by herself. She was in her mid 70s.

Back then she was considered a “shut in”, a term we no longer use. She did not drive, so she depended on others; otherwise she was totally independent.

Mom and Dad came back to visit once a month, and I drove over from Tallahassee every other week. She also had other family members and friends nearby who helped with her more pressing needs.

What I remember her talking about, though, was the loneliness. She became someone she had never been before–a real talker. She would talk your ear off, where before she was a fairly quiet woman. She just needed someone to talk to.

I realize now that she was socially isolated during this six year period. By 1980 I moved back next door with my husband and toddler and another child on the way.

TeleConnect4Seniors May be the Answer

In May a company called TeleConnect for Seniors contacted me and asked if I would try out their new service recently launched in May. Their service is a US-based call center designed to be used by people like you, me, and others like my grandmother who might need help.

Teleconnect for Seniors

It is a subscription-based service, but they offered me a year’s subscription to try them out. They were obviously very trusting because they set up the service with no signed contract and no strings attached. Teleconnect offered me the third (Premium) level so I could try it out fully.  This has been my only compensation.

The service runs 24/7, 365 days a year. So it is always available to help, always there when I need to call.

Not only are they there to answer general questions, but they can also conduct online research for me, provide help with my appointments, and best of all provide help with computers and mobile devices. They can even serve as a “wellness check” service, calling you or a loved one to periodically see how they’re doing and if they need anything.

How TeleConnect for Seniors Can Be Used

Can you imagine what kind of help it may have provided for my grandmother Roe, especially when combined with today’s companies that deliver groceries with only a phone call? She might have had trouble with the technology but not TeleConnect making the order for her.

I can envision someone calling her and asking her if she had any needs for the week. She might have said that she was running low on milk, which she often did. Or maybe Anacin. She took Anacin for arthritis like it was candy.  What a relief it would have been to my dad when a stranger on the phone took care of her grocery order for the week.

And can you imagine how helpful it would have been to have someone call her a couple of times a week just to talk? For her that might have been the best service of all.  It could be a tool to combat social isolation.

TeleConnect for Caregivers

TeleConnect for Seniors can also work very well for those of us still in the workplace who have to care for a senior parent or spouse that is less mobile but wants to remain independent.

My parents and grandparents (mother’s parents) were all ill at the same time back in 2003. I just about went crazy dealing with all the insurance and Medicare forms and issues for the four of them, a job that my Dad did until he was stricken with pancreatic cancer.

I would have given anything for this service then–someone to help me wade through the endless paperwork, the forms, the lists of medications. I used to lose a few brain cells every time I had to figure out which medications to change to when their meds fell off the “accepted insurance” lists. ??

TeleConnect for Myself

But what about my needs today? After all I am 63. Well, a few weeks ago, I found myself in a technologically-challenging situation. I have one of those newfangled routers that has nodes throughout the house for more even coverage. So the technology is new.

But it wasn’t a problem for Cynthia, who answered the phone at Teleconnect for Seniors. I found Cynthia respectful, patient, and understanding. To fix my problem she worked directly with the company who sold me the router. I earlier tried to reach them with no luck.

After I turned my problem over to her, Cynthia was friendly, helpful and promised to get back to me in 15 minutes. And she did! Wow!! She told me that they would call me momentarily, and they did.  Double Wow!

TeleConnect for Seniors offers three different levels of service, starting at just $29.95 per month. For more information about TeleConnect For Seniors, call 877-271-9599 . Or go to www.teleconnect4seniors.com.

How it works

All of us wish to age with independence and our dignity intact. I believe TeleConnect for Seniors might be able to help with this process. Most seniors I know do not want to be a burden to their families. Having a company to help them cope might be the answer.

TeleConnect for Seniors

Being Sedentary Killed my Mother

April 28, 2017 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: Health, It's Not For Sissies

It was a sedentary lifestyle; she chose. Around her mid-60s my Mama decided that she had worked enough, and she completely stopped. She just sat down, literally. She spent long days watching TV from her recliner or sleeping in her bed.

This was not the mama I grew up with. That mama was energetic and involved, especially in our lives. She also worked outside of the home. She dressed to the nines, and she was fun to be around.

Me and my Mom at the Beach

We went to the beach, on long vacations camping all across America, and to movies and museums.

Mom Cooking off a Picnic Table

She enrolled us in dance, twirling, and piano; but all three of us girls were cheerleaders born of a high school tumbling majorette.

Mom as a Majorette

A great cook she ran a tight household. She was so involved in my life that I rebelled big time as a teenager. I didn’t want her to have anything to say about anything in my life. By the time I left to go to college she and I were both exhausted because she held on all the tighter.

She was such an active woman she could bend backward and walk her hands down her backside until she bent into a high backbend, and then bend back up or flip back over to a standing position. I remember her doing a cartwheel off our diving board when she was in her early 60s, showing her granddaughters how it was done.

A Sedentary Lifestyle is a Choice

But suddenly her life was in her recliner, waiting on Daddy to do for her. She told us that she was pre-diabetic like it was a badge of honor. We noticed that she lived on carbs, and we fussed that she needed to watch her sugar.  She said that you couldn’t get diabetes just from eating sugar.

We didn’t know because diabetes was nothing we had before in our family. We began to study it.

She was still a size medium, but she ate anything she wanted. One day in a restaurant she reached for another biscuit, and I reminded her that the carbs in that biscuit turned into sugar in her bloodstream.

Mom with my Sisters, Aunt, and Cousins at Linda’s Wedding

Her judgment had already begun to falter. She glared at me and said she would eat anything she “damn well wanted”. The more she ate of these foods, the worse her legs got.

Being Sedentary Can Affect Your Mental Health

She began to snarl and snap at anyone who dared to question her. It not only impaired her health but her mental state and her relationships with her family members.

The more we encouraged her to keep moving the more she complained about her feet hurting and the more she sat. By the time she was 68 they cut her leg off. Though she was still a size medium and wasn’t really overweight, it still took its toll.

Daddy was an enabler. He cooked and cleaned and was the perfect nursemaid, but he was too perfect. She continued to decline. The more he did for her, the worse she got.

At the time we blamed the sugar, the smoking, the diet; but now we know that what really did her in was the inactivity. Her health continued to spiral out of control.

I read somewhere that for a person who loses a limb there is an 80% chance they will die within five years. She joined other statistics such as how every 30 seconds a limb is lost to diabetes, and at the time she joined nearly 2 million more Americans who already lost a limb.

Daddy died of pancreatic cancer while all of this was happening, and then we were the caregivers–me and my sisters. None of us were prepared. The youngest of us Linda was only 35, and I was 49. Linda had two daughters under the age of five.

We cycled through the problems for five more years after Dad died. Beating the statistics, she didn’t die within five years. She died In seven. She died because she wouldn’t allow them to cut off her other leg. We lost her when she was only 75.

Embracing a Sedentary Lifestyle Kills

In the past year, I’ve noticed numerous magazine and newspaper articles about the effects of prolonged sitting. You can read one here.

Written in 2015 it says there is evidence that “prolonged sitting is independently associated with negative health outcomes and mortality.” And it is worse for people who never exercise, and that was Mama. She wasn’t even a walker.

The article also said that “exercising one hour a day does not counteract prolonged sitting.” And that is me.

With most of us sitting more than half of our waking lives each day, it scares me to think how many more of my family may join her as a statistic. Maybe myself included, because I sit a lot writing, researching, and reading. I haven’t been in my garden for over a week. It is truly a “garden of weedin’.

But in case you thought sitting is the only culprit, read what the New York Times says about lying down. You can read it here.

It reads, “The short answer is that inactivity is the culprit, whether you are sitting or lying down.” Being sedentary kills.

Our legs and backsides use blood sugar for fuel, and in one study using physically fit young men the article said that “Within two weeks of being more sedentary, these previously healthy young men had begun to develop metabolic problems, including serious insulin resistance, whether they had spent their inactive time primarily sitting or in bed.” So it happens quicker than anyone realizes.

And the cacophony of problems caused by prolonged sitting reaches way beyond just diabetes. This diagram below found in the ‘Washington Post’ shows other problems caused by prolonged sitting such as a foggy brain, inflexible spine, tight hips, limp glutes, muscle degeneration, disc degeneration, colon cancer and much more.

You can read about the diagram here.

Being Active Can Save Your Life

For over 40 years I jumped up during commercials using the time to cook, clean, and even garden. I mention the real reason for this behavior in a post about my 40s.   You can read it here.

I mentioned it in this post about my back troubles. Turns out, jumping up during commercials was good for me according to the ‘Washington Post’.

So what can we do? The articles by both AARP and the ‘Washington Post’ made suggestions such as:

  • take a 1 to 3-minute break every half hour to stand and/or move around
  • stand or exercise while watching television or use commercials to walk or like me to just get something done. It is amazing how long commercials are and how much you can get done.
  • do cow and cat poses (Yoga). Click here for a link.
  • do hip flexors 3 minutes per side each day.  Click here for a link.

What happened to my Mama was heartbreaking for all her family, especially daughters and granddaughters–nine of us in all. Two of her granddaughters really never got to know her, and they will have hardly any memories of her.

Mom and Her Two Youngest Grandchildren (not too long before she passed away)

I wrote about this awful story because if it prolongs one life, then it was worth it.

I also wrote it because I miss my Mama. Chuck and I travel to some pretty neat places that she would have loved. I would have taken her along, but she died way, way too young.

What do you do to keep active and avoid a sedentary lifestyle? How do you integrate movement into your daily life? Have you found ways to encourage others to join you? Please share in the comments.

Morning at the Fair: A Sweet Spot for Retirees

February 16, 2017 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: It's Not For Sissies

Want to go somewhere that is fairer, where it is entertaining and fun, where there is an older crowd much like you, where it is not crowded, where it is not expensive, and where we get to feel young again? Well, Chuck and I recently stumbled on just such an experience.

We spent Valentine’s Day at the Florida State Fair, but I think I need to explain the logistics. Because we found just the right time to go.

I worked for many years with the agricultural community, and over those years I probably went to the Florida State fairgrounds more than a dozen times for meetings and for the Agricultural Hall of Fame induction banquets.

In all those years, I never went beyond those meetings out into the midway. For the induction banquets, I walked in and walked back out afterward. For the meetings, the fair was always closed.

I even got a tour of Cracker Country one time when it was closed. I remember being told that I needed to come back when the characters in period costumes were there.

Fast forward to this year. Chuck and I were going to the Hall of Fame banquet again because my nominee was chosen, and Chuck had two of his Florida Land Council members chosen.

The banquet this year was on Valentine’s Day; but instead of dropping in and leaving, we came down a day early and really go the fair.

I loved the fair as a young person. I always loved the livestock barns and other competitions. I used to pick up pecans to pay my way.  Dad built our home in a pecan grove.   Mom and Dad always took me to the fair and paid admission; but if I wanted to spend money on other things, I had to pick up pecans.

I remember how crushed I would be when the market fell just as the pecans were ready. Also, when I was in my mid 20s I chaired the Arts and Crafts portion of our regional fair in Tallahassee.

But we quit going to the fair many years ago when our kids became teenagers. As a teenager, I remember when it wasn’t cool to continue going with your parents. So I wasn’t surprised when they no longer needed us to take them to the fair. Chuck and I just quit going, and the thought of the crowds made me not want to go as I got older.

So this Valentine’s Day, I got to go to the fair with my date; and we had a great time. We got there at 10 am when the gates opened. It was wonderfully uncrowded.

We casually strolled taking in all the sights and sounds. The fairgrounds were clean and neat, and this is a testament to the great staff of the fair’s executive director Cheryl Fulford Flood, who grew up on a cattle ranch over in Polk County.

Florida State Fair

First stop for us was the Craftsmen’s Marketplace. Chuck quickly started holding tighter to his wallet. Unfortunately, not tight enough. He bought red-skin peanuts from Virginia, and I bought sea salt scrub from the Dead Sea. I hit bonanza, though, when he bought me a beautiful 14 karat gold filled bracelet for Valentine’s Day. It was handmade by a man from New Hampshire.

Then we strolled down to Cracker Country, but got sidetracked by a trip to see the Arts and Crafts competitions. Loved the paintings, photography, flowers, furniture making, you name it.

Of course, I was drawn to the painting on the turkey feather.

Embroidery was my forte, and I still have in my cedar chest what I made back in my 20s that took first place at the North Florida Fair, so I enjoyed seeing what was Tampa’s best of show.

There was also a special exhibit on the history of candy, and Chuck bought those horrible horehound drops that one can only find every now and then…fortunately.

A Quick Concert

Outside, we heard a band playing, and we quickly investigated, taking a seat in the bleachers at the Tampa Bay Times Stage. The band was great, and within minutes it was standing room only.

Florida State Fair

The Tampa Bay Times Bandstand

Dennis Lee and his band, mostly from Nashville except for the lady fiddler from Lakeland, did a great job of working the audience mostly full of retiree couples just like us. That is when we realized that this was our crowd.

Florida State Fair

The last few times I went to the fair, it was in the evening, but what Chuck and I realized was that the daytime is “our” time. It is a sweet spot for seniors. We thoroughly enjoyed ourselves. The experience was nothing like going in the evening when the crowds of kids jostle you all about.

We stopped to eat at the Jerk Shack and had a heaping, enough for two, helping of Curried Chicken, boiled cabbage cooked like my Mama’s, and fried plaintains. At $10 for both of us, it was great.  I think I got the name right, but it is located directly across the street from Cracker Country.

We shared the meal. Restaurants serve such big portions, that we always order like this and are seldom disappointed. Plus the Jerk Shack had a shaded table next to them where we relaxed and ate lunch. The couple running the shack were very accommodating and friendly.

Cracker Country

Afterwards, we crossed the street and visited Cracker Country. Cracker Country was the dream of one of Chuck’s Land Council members named Senator Doyle Carlton, Jr.   Long since passed away, this wonderful old cattleman, politician, gentleman, and son of a Governor wanted to make sure that Floridians didn’t forget their history.

We loved visiting the old Okahumpka railroad station, built in the 1880s…

Cracker Country

Cracker Country

And the early 1900s school house.

Cracker Country

In them are volunteers dressed in period costumes to bring the whole experience alive.  The telegraph operator had interesting stories about his job.

Cracker Country

Inside are all kinds of displays.

Cracker Country

Settled in the canopied shade of an old oak hammock (probably called a grove for you non-Floridians), Cracker Country is a wonderful place to stroll, listen to a blue grass band,

Cracker Country

or maybe even buy some ‘log hogs’.  No, we didn’t.  I distracted Chuck and got us through there as quickly as possible.

Cracker Country

Chuck and I especially loved the Hall of Governor’s. There is a painting of each Govenor of Florida from the first territorial Governor Andrew Jackson to today’s Governor Rick Scott. I’m a Florida history buff so I added my own thoughts to what made them famous, such as how Gov. Fuller Warren gave us Florida’s first fencing laws and how I once saw Gov. Bryant from the back of a whistle-stop train platform, the last Florida governor to campaign this way.

Cracker Country

Hall of Governors

We also made a stop by the Agriculture Hall of Fame, where so many of those men and women who we had the pleasure of working with, are memorialized.

Chuck and I had a wonderful day at the fair. We left by 4 pm, because it was time to go back to the hotel to change for the banquet. Besides, it was a good time to leave anyway. The crowds were thickening.

The Mooternity Ward

We finished our fair exploration with a visit to the Mooternity Ward, where we got to see all the farm babies.

Florida State Fair

It was a great day. We plan to do it again next year, and maybe even ride some rides. Both of us want to go back and ride the new 155-foot tall Ferris wheel!

Best of all, though, admission was only $9 per senior person. What a deal.

How to Make Yourself Look Younger

June 21, 2016 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: It's Not For Sissies, This & That

Everyone wants to look younger or better or maybe even just more rested. Don’t you just hate it when you see yourself in a photo, and you just feel like you look terrible. Instead of a smiling happy face, all you can see are the lines, splotches, and sagging skin.

 
But there is another reason that I decided to write this post. My high school is getting ready to have a mass class reunion of all grades between about 1950 and 2000.

 
As many of you know, I post a lot of photos of myself on this site, on the Old Age Is Not… social media sites, and on my personal social media sites, too. These photos are of me mostly wearing Stitch Fix clothing, so I want to look my best. That is to say, I doctor my looks and my photos. Chuck says that what I really do is commit fraud–the fraud he says is trying to look younger.  Well, duh!

 

 

So I figure I had better come clean and let my classmates know my little secret. Otherwise, we will all show up for the reunion; and they will wonder if I have been under the weather lately. As in “Gosh Cindy, what happened to your face?”

 
So here are some ways to make yourself look better or look younger. The following tips are how I make myself look better for the photos, especially for Stitch Fix.

 
1. If you are taking a photo, lighting is key. Overhead lighting is your enemy, especially if you are my age. Overhead lighting accentuates your wrinkles, under eye bags, red splotches, and anything else wrong at the moment with your face.  You can forget being able to look younger, if the lighting is coming from above.

 
The best place for me to take my selfie photos is in my bedroom, where there is an entire wall of floor to ceiling. This is where I take my Stitch Fix photos using a full standing mirror. What you see in my photos is actually a mirror image.

 

 

 

A large oak tree to one side of this bank of windows diffuses the light just enough. Also, this is a north facing window so I never get direct sunlight into this room. It is always bright, indirect sunlight.

 

 

 

 

 

 
So if the lighting is overhead, run for cover for your photos. Be careful with dappled shade, though. It can cause the same bad effects. Best case scenario is earlier in the day or later in the afternoon when the sunlight is coming in from the side.

 
2. Don’t hold the camera too close to your face. Your nose and anything else closer to the lens will appear larger. I put this tip in so you can see that anything that you want to minimize should be farther away from the camera. Maybe you don’t like your arms. Maybe your bust line bothers you. Use clothing and camera angles to accentuate or minimize. Your choice.

 

 

 

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This Photo was Rejected Because my Hand Looked too Large

 

I learned this when I worked for the state game and fish commission and for an angler’s association. If you want the fish to look bigger in your photo, hold it closer to the camera in front of your body. The closer you push the fish to the camera, the bigger it looks.

 
3. Tanned skin makes you look thinner. White pasty skin is not flattering in photos. Everyone likes the porcelain look but not too many of us can pull it off. My sister Linda being one of the exceptions.

 
So get a sunless tanner and learn how to use it. I wear one everyday–having to reapply it every 5-7 days. Not everyone will want to do that, so just remember to wear it for special occasions when people will be taking photos, such as weddings, birthday parties, family gatherings of any kind, or class reunions.

 
Use it on your face, décolletage, neck, arms, shoulders, legs and anything else that the camera can see. You’ll be glad you did.  It will make you and your skin look younger.

 
4. If you are older like me, apply a good makeup base with a neutral eye shadow over the lower lid and into the crease, eye liner over the top eyelid (especially if you are older like me), mascara (can be top and bottom), blush in all the right places, and a good lipstick with color but not too much.  I’ll explain below.

 
A good makeup base removes the splotches. I wear one everyday, because that is what my Mom did. I was just raised that way. Turns out that it really helps when I’m photographed.  It will make you look younger without the splotches and discoloration.

 
As we age, we should drop the colored eye shadows. They don’t look that good in photos anyway. Leave all of these for the young women. Also, putting shadow over the crease up to the eyebrow accentuates the wrong area of the eye and causes a shine where it isn’t as flattering anymore.

 
Mascara and lipstick are my necessities in life. My grandmother taught me that a lady wasn’t dressed until she put on her earrings and her lipstick. I never leave home without them. As I’ve aged my eyes tend to no longer stand out.  Mascara is a must.

 

The other necessity in life is a smile. I try to wear one everyday.

 
Speaking of a smile, I just found out from my Yoga instructor that a smile relaxes your face and in turn every muscle in your body. So for all us stressed out ladies, the secret is to smile even when we don’t feel like it.

 
With the blush you’ve chosen, apply it to contour and create apples on your cheeks. We older ladies need those apples. Most contouring diagrams, though, are for younger people; and they leave this out as you can see below.  In fact I’m wondering if this ultra thin model would have had enough facial definition to have apples on her cheeks anyway.

 

 

 

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Once you’ve placed blush where they suggest contouring (contouring is the darker shading), go back and place some blush on the apples of your cheeks. Blend and remember that practice makes perfect.

 
5. Wear something that fits but does not tug or cling. You don’t want any rolls showing around your middle. Remember Maude on TV, played by Bea Arthur? She was known for her tunic and vest wardrobe which she also wore on the tv series “Golden Girls”.

 

 

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Maude Played by Bea Arthur

 

Notice how it floated away from her body. The layering and draping worked. She found something very flattering for her, and the designers just stayed with it. She became a fashion icon to many older women.  On the “Golden Girls” you will notice that all of the characters mostly wear clothes that pull away from their bodies.

 

 

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But Bea Arthur did it best and became a fashion icon because of it.  When asked about her clothes, she would simply say that she just liked to be comfortable.

 

 

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Hide that which you are embarrassed about. My knees are getting bony so I try to stay away from shorts and dresses above my knees. I also have a spider vein problem up on my right thigh.  I do wear tunics, but I’ve found that the secret is wearing blouses that pull away from my middle.  You can hide a multitude of sins under there–rolls, lumps, a pooching stomach.  Chuck says that this is fraud again.  I just tell him that it is simply female “camo”.

 
6. Which brings me to my final tip. It is called Facetune.

 
As I said before, my husband accuses me of fraud all the time. He is really talking about the clothes and makeup that I use to camouflage all my shortcomings. But Facetune is my biggest fraud.
It is a photo editing app that I use to retouch my photos. It smooths out crows feet and other wrinkles. It does the same thing for splotches and liver spots. I’ve even removed wrinkles from clothes with it. Just because it is called Facetune doesn’t mean it can only be used on the face.

 
Here’s a video below that shows how the “smoothing” feature works.

 

 

 

 

Also, here is another example–two photos of myself. One before Facetune and one after. I think you get the picture.

 

 

Before & After

Before and After Facetune

 
So now you know how I commit fraud, and why I thought it important to come clean before the class reunion.

 
These steps can make anyone look younger, rested and happier. So it is ok to smile in your photos.   Facetune can fix the lines and wrinkles for any picture you have.

 
Oh, and now you know why my husband says that I commit fraud everyday!

 
I look forward to seeing some of you at the class reunion!  Too bad that I won’t look younger.

 

Too bad that Facetune doesn’t come in a bottle!

His Retirement? No Privacy 24-7

April 25, 2016 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: It's Not For Sissies

It is interesting these days since Chuck retired. This was a house where I was always alone, working in our joint office overlooking the lake. It was peaceful and uninterrupted.


If I wanted to stop and work in my garden for a few minutes, there was nothing to stop me.  Chuck was always downtown in his office.

 

Fast forward six months to today; and Chuck is always here, hanging around the house, reading, working on his computer, or going fishing. Retirement has really changed our lives.

The kids feel freer to drop in to visit. Our oldest daughter dropped in this morning, and she and her toddler came back this afternoon. 

Actually, it turned out okay. I just continued working in my office, and she and Chuck did all kinds of odd jobs.

They tried to get the downstairs toilet fixed, and they were successful. They played with the grandson outside.

Interesting changes around here! What will our lives be like when we completely retire?   That comes later.

What is Old Age Like?

December 24, 2014 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: It's Not For Sissies, This & That

There is a wonderful freedom that comes with aging. Contrary to what we believed when we were young, age does have its advantages. 

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I can play on my computer till 3 a.m. and sleep until noon. Of course, I know that I feel better if I keep a regular schedule, but it is good to know that I don’t have to do so.  It is my choice.

I’m old enough to understand how delicate life can be. I’ve lost loved ones, and I’ve come to the realization that life is truly special. 

At the age of 49 I lost my dad. I felt cheated, until I realized that I had friends whose parents died young, when my friends were in high school or in their 20s.  I was blessed by having my father for almost a half a century. My own dad’s father died when my dad was just 21.

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I am fortunate to have grey hair. I had a friend who passed away when we were 14. Not only did she miss watching her own hair turn silver, but she never got to go to a prom or hold her own child in her arms. 

My friend will be forever young, and now one can see my own youthful laughter forever etched into the wrinkles and folds of my face.  Those wrinkles are my blessings.

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In my 40s my thoughts began to settle into a more positive pattern. I didn’t worry as much about what others thought.  I began to have more confidence.  I stopped questioning myself and began to feel comfortable being wrong or making a mistake. 

My dad had it right all along.  So what if you fail, dust yourself off and get back up.  I realize now that this is called “grit”.

Grit, by the way, is the topic du jour in the world of cognitive research; and they are looking into the correlation of grit and school achievement. There is a book I’ve been meaning to read called, “How Children Succeed: Grit, Curiosity, and the Hidden Power of Character.”

For more on grit and the latest research read, Angela Duckworth and the Research on Grit.

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In short, getting older has a way of setting us free. We begin to like ourselves more. We begin to notice that we are mortal, and this is not bad.

We begin to stop wasting time worrying about what we could have been.  We start doing what we want to be. 

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It is actually a clearer course.

Finding perfection

October 2, 2014 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: It's Not For Sissies

Love doesn’t mold us. It is how we mold ourselves after that love. Interesting thoughts from Blogger Cristian Mihai.

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