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What My Daughter Learned That Made Her a Better Mom

December 28, 2014 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: Family Life Leave a Comment

My daughter Tracy recently posted on her blog entitled “The Uncoordinated Mommy”  Four Things I Learned This Year That Made Me A Better Mom. I have copied it in its entirety for you below.

As most of us know, it is no bed of roses trying to keep up with two toddlers.

Share this with your daughters and daughters-in-law.  It might help them realize that they are not in this alone–that there is a world of mommies out there trying to cope with their children.

Things I Learned This Year That Made Me a Better Mom

December 4, 2014 by Tracy Filed Under: Parenting, Review Leave a Comment

4 Things That Made Me A Better Mom

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1. When to Ask for Help

I made the decision in January to stop nursing Bryce. As a result of my post-partum depression, which I thought was mostly gone, I realized that I had been too weak to stop his night time feedings. That’s right, he was 16 months old and still waking up between 3 and 4 AM every night to eat. Add to it that Noah would wake up with a bad dream every couple of nights and I was getting NO sleep. I finally decided enough was enough and begged Eric to help me. I knew that if I went in to comfort Bryce in the middle of the night I would end up feeding him. So for 3 or 4 nights Eric was in charge and as a result Bryce started sleeping through the night. Hallelujah!! After a weeks worth of sleep I realized that if we had been more protective of my sleep we could have prevented a lot of the pain we went through these last 2 years. Hind-sight, could a’ would a’ should a’.

  2. Know Your Limits and Priorities

This one is very similar to #1 above but a very different lesson learned. At the beginning of the year I was consumed with work for my client. The boys were both in school and I was constantly finding new ways to promote my new client through various social media channels. I was doing a pretty good job at balancing work with family. And then summer hit.

This was my first summer with both boys at home and very little camp. That meant that they were only in school for 4 weeks. OMG I thought this summer would never end. I also realized that I was taking on way too much with my work for my client. At least too much with the boys at home. We also realized that we were going to have to cut our budget back and that meant taking one of the boys out of school. With all of these changes afoot I knew that I was going to have to cut back on work. The boys have always been, and will continue to be my #1 priority. So that meant I had to quit working for my client. It was frustrating but freeing.

 3. Be Strong and Roll With The Punches

Early in the year Bryce started showing the early warning signs of the terrible twos! Crap. He was/is a whirling dervish! He’s crazy. He has no fear and a tolerance for pain that he seems to have inherited from his grandfathers. He put us all to the test one early morning in June on the day of my brother in-laws wedding. He decided to lunge out of the hotel bed and before I could catch him bashed his head into the marble topped nightstand. By 8AM we were in the emergency room getting him stitched up. The nurses wrapped him in a sheet and while one nurse held his head, another held his legs, and I used every ounce of my strength to hold his chest down. In the beginning while the doctor cleaned his wound he just cried “Ow, ow, ow” over and over. Then somewhere in the middle of the stitches he decided he had had enough. He glared at us and just grunted with all his might trying to get out. He was so mad at us! One of the nurses commented, “Oh no! He’s going to hulk out on us!”

It was a crazy day but we all made it to the wedding on time and dressed to the nines. Oh, and did I mention all four of us were in the wedding?? Crazy I tell you!

 4. You Can (Re)Learn Patience

This has been one of the most amazing things I have learned this year. I have struggled with patience ever since my children were born. Before kids I had an enormous amount of patience, after it was pretty much non-existent. Turns out the PPD and lack of sleep were HUGE contributors. Now that it’s mostly behind me I have been trying to tap into my former awesome self. ;) Enter Love and Logic. It’s a parenting style that preaches logical consequences, which I totally can get behind, but most importantly Love, with a capital L. It has been essential to rebuilding my relationship with Noah and helping him stay calm when he gets frustrated. I could probably write a whole series of posts on this, and probably will, but take my word for it, it’s awesome!!

 I am very greatful for all of the wonderful experiences I have had with my blog this year and all the wonderful brands that have wanted to work with me. This post is sponsored by the makers of Children’s Motrin. They asked for me to reflect on this year and what has helped make me an Unstoppable Mom. I finally OK with that term, because as I see nothin’s stopped me yet, I doubt I would win any mother of the year awards, but I’m still truckin’! LOL

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A Picture Perfect Christmas…Not!

December 26, 2014 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: Family Life, This & That 1 Comment

Let’s face it. It is not really the picture perfect Christmases we remember. It is a romanticized version of all the things we enjoyed and remember from our childhood memories. Many of us take those wonderful memories and weave them into our own version of a Norman Rockwell Christmas scene.

In retrospect it all seems perfect. This is the nostalgic Christmas that we all want to remember; but it is a general picture–like an impressionist painting.

More specifically are the moments that we remember with crystal-clear recall–those funny and touching moments–the moments that went wrong and the moments absurd.

There are a couple that come to mind that I would like to share.

The one I remember most was when our youngest daughter played the angel in our church’s Christmas Pageant. She had a head full of very curly blond hair that was always a little frizzed and fuzzy. It encircled her head like a golden halo. At three years old everyone thought she was perfect for the part, everyone, that is, except her older sister.

Jamie wanted to be the angel but instead she was chosen to be a shephard. Our little Presbyterian Church was small, and there weren’t enough little boys to play the male characters. So while her sister was getting to be the cute little angel at center stage, Jamie had to put a towel on her head, a boy’s bathrobe over her clothes and play the part of a sheep herder in the wings. She was not a happy camper.

That night our precious Christmas angel stood behind the manger fidgeting around like she often did, oblivious to the requirements of a proper Christmas angel, while Jamie sulked on the sidelines.

Finally, we should have seen it coming. The Christmas angel bumped into the manager dumping its contents across the stage, and Baby Jesus rolled into the audience.

There was a gentle gasp as chairs started sliding across the floor and one little but very loud voice from the shepherds said, “See mama. I told you I’d make a better angel.”

Yes, we their parents were mortified at the time; but it has become our favorite Christmas story. I can’t wait to tell their children some day.

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Another family Christmas story was my mother’s outdoor Christmas decorations, which were known far and wide. Every year our poor dad put up Christmas decorations for days. There was a big Santa and his sleigh with all the reindeer up on the roof, and down nestled under a beautiful old crabapple tree was a manger scene which was bigger than the one on the courthouse square. Mary, Joseph, and all the animals and characters were big plastic figures and could easily be viewed from the road.

A row of giant red and white candy canes stood as sentries lining each side of the driveway. The entire front yard and the house were blanketed in twinkling lights. It was a Christmas wonderland. People in town drove by with their kids to see the display.

One of the last Christmas Eves, before mother got sick and her tradition ended, my baby sister and her family along with their two little girls ages 3 and 6 arrived. The rest of us emptied into mom and dad’s front yard to watch our two youngest members ooh and ah over the decorations.

The two little girls were dressed in their little Christmas dresses and were running from one scene to the next obviously overwhelmed by all the yard art, when the three year old redhead ran to the manger scene and proceeded to run away with baby Jesus. Problem is baby Jesus was a big plastic figure lit from within complete with an extension cord for electricity. Baby Jesus was almost as big as she was.

Just as we realized that she was running away with the blessed infant, she ran out of cord. Down she went in a tumble of satin and crinolines with an unlit plastic baby Jesus on top of her.

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My family loves to laugh and share these stories. Both of these moments are unforgettable pictures that we’ll always carry in our hearts. Our fidgety Christmas angel is now 34 years old, and my niece who rolled on my parent’s lawn that Christmas Eve just started high school in September.

If everything this Christmas didn’t go as you had planned, I truly wish for you the ability to turn it into a memory where you can find some small pleasure in the moment.

Merry Christmas from our home to yours!

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Why My Daughter Feels that Her Relationship With Her Child Will Directly Influence His Relationship With God

December 5, 2014 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: Family Life Leave a Comment

As some of you know, both of my daughters are bloggers.  One blogs mostly about her children and is a social media consultant.  The other is a Disney blogger.

My Girls and I, about 1981

My Girls and I, about 1981

Today, my youngest, the social media consultant, wrote the following about unconditional love.  As I’m again part of her post, it is below.  I remember well the incident she uses as an example, but I have to admit that I learned that example of child rearing from my dad.

My sister and I were in a little country store, and we opened a pack of candy or gum and proceeded to eat or chew its contents.  (I cannot remember which because it was over 50 years ago.)

Anyway, dad made a big deal of taking us and the uneaten food up to Mr. Porter at the counter; and we were made to admit we had taken it without paying.  Then dad made us return the uneaten portion which he paid for on the spot.  I remember feeling the same way my daughter did.  I just wanted to crawl in a hole and disappear.

At no time, though, did I feel that my dad didn’t love me or would abandon me.  His love was unconditional, and I knew it even if I didn’t understand the meaning of the word.  My dad like so many people back then in my life let his actions do his talking.  His grammar might have been all wrong, but his actions were always spot on.

Mom, Myself, My Sister & Dad in Battle Creek, Michigan

Mom, Myself, My Sister & Dad in Battle Creek, Michigan

Below is my daughter’s post.  You can read this post and follow her work online at The Uncoordinated Mommy.

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My Relationship with my Child will Directly Influence His Relationship With God

December 4, 2014 By: Tracy Kistler (The UnCoordinated Mommy)1 Comment

My Relationship With My Child Will Directly Influence His Relationship With God

Wow, no pressure huh!?

It might help if I explain how I came to this conclusion. Throughout the year I have been involved in various study groups with my church. One such group focused on teaching us that we are beloved. That there is nothing we can do that will cause God to turn his back on us. In these discussions I was somewhat astonished at how many essays and blogs and books have been written about this subject. Everyone seemed so surprised and honestly I can say that in the past I have taken this for granted.

It never occurred to me that it could be any different. Then one day while I was pondering this thought it occurred to me that this concept was not foreign because that is exactly how I was raised. I grew up knowing that there was virtually nothing I could do to cause my family to turn their backs on me. There was one time in particular where I tested this notion.

My cousin and I had decided to explore the titillating world of shoplifting. It was mostly innocent, we were young and stupid, which I guess are virtually interchangeable. Luckily for us we didn’t get caught in the act, our parents figured it out when we had random stuff laying around that we obviously hadn’t purchased.

It was mortifying.

I was so embarrassed and to make matters worse as punishment my mother made me take everything back to the stores and tell them what I had done. I literally prayed that God would just smite me down right there in the store so I wouldn’t have to endure the shame and embarrassment any more.

Man my mom was good. Only now can I imagine how incredibly embarrassing that was for her! That took some serious strength on her part.

As I mentioned, I was raised in an extremely forgiving family. That’s not to say, however, that they would ever let you live anything down!! I can remember shortly after the whole fiasco was over my grandparents were visiting and my grandfather motioned towards something I was holding and said “Now did you pay for that?” I, of course, turned beet red and he pulled me in for one of his amazing bear hugs just cracking up laughing at his own joke the whole time. Later my grandmother pulled me aside and said, “Obviously you have learned your lesson, but I wanted you to know that no matter what you do we will always love you.” Even then I already knew this, but obviously that statement stuck with me.

Fast forward 20 something years and as I look back on all the horrible decisions I have made, and trust me there are some humdingers, I never would have been able to overcome those adversities if I thought that God, or my family, would turn their back on me. But imagine if I hadn’t been raised that way. Imagine all of those little kids out there who don’t instinctively know that they are worthy of love, from people walking around down here on earth, or our ultimate Father in the heavens above?

It breaks my heart. One day soon I hope to be able to make a difference in the lives of those children. But today I have to focus on these precious little boys in my home. God has entrusted them to me and it is my job to teach them about unconditional love.

And with His help I know I can do it.

My Daughter’s Silent Loss

November 30, 2014 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: Family Life Leave a Comment

Years ago my oldest daughter, who was living with her husband in Romania, called me with news that no mother wants to hear, especially when her little girl is so far away.She is my oldest daughter, and she is a blogger herself.  Earlier this year, she decided to share those sad days with her followers using three blog posts.  Below is a copy of her first.  She can be followed at Mommy2Bubba

The Beginning of My Silent Loss

April 29, 2014 By: Mommy 2 Bubba2 Comments

I have been pregnant three times but only one live birth (my doctor’s words).

I am blessed to have a beautiful little boy and I am thankful for him every day.  But most people don’t know that we first tried to start a family 8 years ago when we were living overseas.

Up until that point in my life I hadn’t heard of many women who had miscarried.  I had heard that miscarriages happen, but it wasn’t very common to me.  When women in my family got pregnant things ended with a beautiful little baby at the end.  And I figured people have babies all over the world so it wouldn’t matter that I was living in Eastern Europe.  

Around the beginning of my third trimester I would come home to Florida and stay with my parents until the baby came.  Lucky for me, one of my best friends was getting married and I would be in the US right at 8 weeks so I could see a US doctor and explain to them my situation.

I made my appointment and, since I was traveling without my husband, my mother came with me.  The doctor and the nurse helped me plan out how I would see a doctor in Romania regularly and send them the medical records to keep them in the know.  Next I was to have my first ultrasound to see how things were progressing.  The nurse calmly said that I must not be as far along because they couldn’t find anything. It didn’t even occur to me to worry.

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Jamie Waiting To See Her Doctor

So back home to Romania we went and I was told to have another ultrasound as soon as I could.  I spent close to a month in the US, so I think I was around 10 weeks when I had the next ultrasound.

Hubby and I made an appointment at a clinic near the hospital in Bucharest.  I was so excited to finally see the baby and hopefully hear the heartbeat.  When we walked into the clinic, there was a large stark room with no decorations.  But the lobby was very bright with the beautiful cloudless day with the sun shining through these large floor to ceiling windows.

I checked in and waited to be called back.  I barely noticed the construction across the street as we picked two seats in the open lobby.

We were called back by a young Romanian woman who was our ultrasound technician and we followed her to another stark room with nothing but the table and ultrasound machine next to it.  The ceilings were high because they only had A/C units but once again nothing on the walls.

The room had the table for me to sit on with the ultrasound machine next to it.  There was no counter or table and I am not sure if there was a seat for the hubby.  I know he was standing next to me holding my hand expecting to hear good news.  The lingering effects of the communist culture were evident here.

The young technician looked at the screen and abruptly said “there is no heartbeat there, next you will need to have an abortion.”  I was stunned and her words took all the air out of my sails!  It took me a second to gather my thoughts to form a question.  I asked if she could explain in more detail but she didn’t speak very good English so I asked for the records and left the clinic.

When we were given the records we walked out the same door we came in and found our car.  The day was probably still beautiful and cloudless.  But when I heard the words there is no heartbeat, my world had grounded to a halt.  I climbed into the back seat not noticing people walking by or the cars out on the road.  Once in the back I just sat with the window down staring out the window but not really taking anything in as we drove back to the apartment.

“When I heard the words there is no heartbeat, my world had grounded to a halt…”

When we walked in the door we were immediately greeted by our little Westie Rory. She wasn’t even a year old so she was always happy and playful when we got home.  But today she wasn’t as hyper and she just followed me around.

I walked straight to our bedroom and laid down on the bed.  Rory couldn’t jump high enough to get on the bed so I picked her up and put her on the bed.  She immediately snuggled up next to my heart and just laid with me while I cried.

“What the hell just happened?”  At that point I really didn’t know anyone who had had a miscarriage so I had no one to talk to about this…or so I thought.  When I got a hold of my mom, she said “oh baby, these things happens.  I miscarried with my first too.”

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Jamie and Rory During Better Days

Learning to Adjust Our Sail

November 15, 2014 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: Family Life Leave a Comment

I love good quotes, and this one touched a cord this week.

“You cannot direct the wind, but you can always adjust your sail.” – Ash Sweeney

How true! How true!

It shows a certain amount of maturity when someone accepts their fate and calmly adjusts their sail.

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Meet My Oldest Daughter

November 8, 2014 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: Family Life Leave a Comment

Cindy & her girls

My oldest daughter is the one on the left in the picture above of me and my girls.

There is no way to describe the birth of a child, especially one’s  first.  My oldest daughter holds that description, but she has added so much more to my life since that day.  Here’s a description of herself in her own words.

Five Little Nuggets of Information from My Pixie Dusted Life

Both my daughters are bloggers.  Her blog started out as “Mommy2Bubba”, named after her son who at first called himself Bubba.  She became a Disney blogger because she has spent so much time there ever since she was a little girl.  She knows a lot about visiting Disney’s Florida properties.  Now her blog is called “My Pixie Dusted Life.”

I personally have never lived outside of a fifty-mile radius, but not her.  She went to college in Alabama, moved to Washington DC, and then to Romania and Bosnia.  Now she lives with her husband and son within 30 miles of my home.

It is good to have her back in the state of Florida.  Because of her last move, her son is the tenth generation of my family to be a Floridian.

 

Why I’m Stressing Over Hurricane Irma & Marco Island

October 28, 2014 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: Family Life, Travel 4 Comments

We just watched the massive Hurricane Irma rake over Marco Island on Florida’s west coast.  We’re worried.

Chuck and I were dating when he first told me about this special room he had had at the Marco Island Marriott. I stayed at that hotel about twelve years earlier when it was newer. I wondered if the hotel still had the charm I found back in 1976 when I was a 22-year old executive secretary working for a flash in the pan lobbying and association management firm called Pulse, Inc.  By Chuck’s description, it was.

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> He described the room as a two-bedroom suite overlooking a wide beach with its stairs leading down to a restaurant nearby. I tried to picture it in my mind, but my room while there in the mid-70s was called a Villa, and I didn’t remember any second floors in that part of the hotel.

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> Chuck and I continued to date, married and spent the next twenty-five years coming to this room at the Marco Island Marriott. Our children grew up coming with us to Lanai Suite 193, and now they are bringing their children.   The hotel later named it the Bora Bora Suite.

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> There are so many stories and so many memories, like the day I decided to send a load of clothes to the laundry and they billed us $79. I was afraid to tell Chuck how stupid I had been.  Or the time our son figured out that his room key was a blank check to anything he wanted to do at the resort.  That bill included an ice cream party for him and some of his buddies at the little ice cream shop on the premises.  He said, “just order what you like, the hotel is free for my family”.  It wasn’t; we were just on an expense account.  He obviously didn’t realize that only Chuck’s carefully weighed expenses were reimbursed.

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> Chuck’s mother came frequently over the years, and we were floored one day when she showed up after being missed for over an hour with a picture of her dangling from a para-sail. She was 78 years old, wore the room’s clear shower cap to keep her beautiful gray, quaffed hairdo from getting wet, and charged the $75 to our room.  I guess she thought it was free, like our son.  Chuck, also known as the wallet by our kids, paid the tab anyway, overjoyed by the spontaneity of his mom.

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>The last year we were there my sister and her two daughters came, and my other sister’s daughter made the trip several times, too. The room is bigger than some people’s homes.  It has two very large bedrooms, and you could parallel park a semi in its long living room with its wall of windows overlooking the beach.  There is a large conference size dining room table that will seat 10 to 12 comfortably,  The suite even has its own gym with a treadmill that we never use, because why would you run on that thing when a walk on the beach is right out your door.

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> Our bath attached to the master bedroom is bigger than most RVs. The jacuzzi tub is too big for just one person, and you can shower five giggling girls at one time in the walk in shower with its six jets and overhead rain shower.

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> The kitchen is in a room by itself with a microwave and frig. We bring lots of soft drinks, snacks, and quick foods for the kids who dine in mostly throughout the week.  We even bring a blender and make our own piña coladas using fresh pineapple, milk, coconut extract, bananas, ice, and rum.  We usually have at least one dinner there with colleagues who have been coming to this conference as long as we have.  Like ours, all their kids grew up meeting each summer at the Marco Marriott.

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> We have been through three renovations and redecorations. When we first started coming here, the room was decorated in tropical greens and blues with a limestone floor. Now it is British colonial island with golds and navy and muted orange and a yellow marble floor,

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> We’ve slept much more than the six that the beds sleep, with kids on the floor everywhere in sleeping bags. Last year all three kids came with their spouses and our six grandchildren and my sisters and her girls.  We had to finally break down and get another room for the overflow.

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> 2014 was special, though, because the unthinkable happened. After 28 years of staying in this room, the Marriott told us that the hotel would go through a full renovation of the lanais and the meeting rooms.  We would have to have our conference somewhere else in Florida.  We chose another Marriott in Orlando, but that wasn’t the biggest program.

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> From their description of what would happen during the renovation, we thought that Lanai Room 193 may no longer exist, or at least in its current form. It looked as if they might tear the building down and put in a multi-story building.  If it is like the other suites in the hotel, it might become a penthouse higher in the air.  They asked us for years if we would like to stay in one of the penthouses in the two towers, but I’ve seen them and this room because of its location is the pick of the litter.

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>I remember our last week there, and it was one filled with much nostalgia.

A fisheye view from the Bora Bora Suite looking northwest.

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> All those years, all those meetings, all those friends, all those family members, some of which have since passed. Chuck’s mom passed over five years ago, as have both of my parents.  One of the nieces passed away.  Now Chuck and I are 73 and 63 respectively and are both gray.

Walking to dinner one evening.

Walking to dinner on Marco Island.

Then we found out that the room would exist when we returned only renovated. We were thrilled.  It was good news indeed.

We were supposed to return to Marco last July for the conference, but the meetings rooms were unfinished. It will be 2018’before we return, and now Hurricane Irma’s eye crossed the island.  We’re wondering how the room did.

The Marco Marriott is on its west coast, on a beautiful wide beach. But the Bora Bora suite is right at beach level. I’m sure Irma has filled it with beach water and sand.

A view due west from the Bora Bora Suite.

Like everything else, I guess Linai 193 must pass, too. Then again it might get totally renovated. We’ll know next July at the conference which is planned again for the Marco Marriott.

I wish all our friends who work there all the best in this ugly storm.

Sunsets on Marco Island are the best!

Are You Ready for Halloween?

October 27, 2014 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: Family Life, Fashion 1 Comment

Well, actually, I am.  I’ve been planning a Malicifent costume since the beginning of the month.  It depends mostly on make-up, but I have a great cape of black tulle that I bought from Target that will be fun to wear.  We’re planning to trick or treat with the grandchildren on Friday night.

My youngest daughter’s blog “The Uncoordinated Mommy” has a wonderful “how to” post for making a baby’s Olaf costume.  The link is below.

No Sew Olaf Costume

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If you haven’t seen the movie “Frozen”, then you’ve missed one of the cutest Disney characters ever.  Olaf is a little comical snow man.  Like most snow men made by children, he is small and has a misshapen head and body.  He comes apart and pulls back together again.  He says the funniest things.  He stole the show.

So check out how easy the girls made an Olaf costume for the youngest member of our family.  Here she is with her older cousins, who dressed as the Elsa, the Snow Queen and her sister Princess Anna, also from “Frozen”.

Savanna & Hannah

Finding Blessings Even in Life’s Tribulations

October 25, 2014 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: Family Life, Health 4 Comments

I just ran across an article at FoxNews.com that I think is inspiration for us all.  I copied it in its entirety below.

I could identify with this story.  Years ago my uncle entered into the later stages of this disease, and his children finally came to the decision to place him in a facility.  My grandmother, his sister and a very strong woman, wouldn’t have it; so she drove to south Florida and brought him to her home in north Florida.

About two days later I was washing dishes at my kitchen sink and noticed my uncle walking down the street in front of our home alone.  I called my grandmother, and she didn’t even realize he had left the house.

His stay with her lasted hardly two weeks.  He kept wandering away, as one cannot keep an eye on them 24/7.  In defeat she took him back down to south Florida.

Here’s is Kim Campbell’s story about her husband.

‘Thank you, heavenly Father’: Faith, Alzheimer’s and my husband Glen Campbell 

By Kim Campbell, Published October 24, 2014, FoxNews.com

Glen & Kim Campbell

Glen & Kim Campbell

My husband, Glen Campbell, has stage 6 Alzheimer’s disease. Seven months ago, at the recommendation of his doctors, we placed him in a memory care facility close to our home in Nashville.

It’s a community that’s designed specifically for the needs of those who have Alzheimer’s and dementia. They have all kinds of therapies and activities that stimulate parts of the brain affected by the illness. It’s a safe and secure environment where he receives around-the-clock care.

It’s been good for him. He just seems more at peace there than he was at home, where he became increasingly agitated and frantic.

He lives in a mental fog most of the time. He’s lost most of his language skills and has a hard time communicating. He still has moments of lucidity, though, and those moments let us know he’s still in there and that he’s the Glen we’ve always known. He can make short sentences and say things like “I love you” and “We are so blessed.”

The aides and nurses say he must have been a godly man because they always see him thanking the Lord. I’ve seen him walk over to the window and lift up his hands and say, “Thank you, heavenly Father.”

Glen Campbell as a Younger Man

Glen Campbell as a Younger Man

Those moments are so comforting because when you’re facing your mortality, that’s when you want to know God is there. That’s when you really want to draw close to Him.

When I see him do that, I know God is with him, and he’s aware of His presence. He’s relying on the Lord and gets his strength from Him.

People should not give up on others who have dementia. The essence of who they are is still alive and still in there.

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He’s still the Glen Campbell he’s always been. He’s always especially loved children and old people. There’s this little lady in a wheelchair in the facility, and she can’t speak at all. He will walk over to her and take her little hand in his and say, “You are so precious.”

He’ll kiss her on the forehead, and she’ll just look up at him. She has no idea who he is, but you can tell it comforts her.

Even in his affliction, he’s ministering to people and trying to be a blessing.

In between those moments, he’s lost. He wanders. He can’t communicate. He doesn’t understand what others say to him. It’s very hard to direct him even to sit in a chair in the dining room.

When we did the film, “Glen Campbell… I’ll Be Me,” which documents his last farewell tour, Glen was in stages 2-4. He knew what was happening to him and he wanted to let people know what Alzheimer’s is really like.

He was passionate about making this film because he hoped it would be a catalyst for more funding for research to find a cure. He wanted to encourage other families who are dealing with this disease to keep living their lives, supporting each other and lifting each other up.

When Glen got the diagnosis and decided to go public, it was because he wanted fans to know what was going on in case he exhibited odd behavior on stage, like repeating a song or forgetting what key it was in.

He just wanted them to understand. But after he made the announcement, we all wondered if anyone would want to come see someone with Alzheimer’s perform.

We wondered if his fans would rather remember him the way he was. Maybe it would be depressing. Or maybe no one would be interested either way.

But what we found was the exact opposite. The first show he did after making the announcement sold out. From the time he walked on stage to the time he walked off, it was one standing ovation after another. It was clear fans were there to shower him with love and to root for, support and encourage him. It really blessed Glen and encouraged him to continue on.

Offers began to pour in from around the country for Glen to come to their cities to perform.

What began as a five-week farewell tour turned into 151 dates. His last show was at the Uptown Theater in Napa, Calif., on Nov. 30, 2012.

The first 15-20 minutes were a train wreck. He was having difficulties. His guitar wasn’t loud enough. It didn’t have the quality he wanted. He became very agitated on stage. He kept turning his back to the audience. His band was very uncomfortable. It was a tough show.

But the audience, again, was so supportive. They cheered for him without fail and without question. They loved him unconditionally.

He snapped back and finished the show strong. It was good, but it was clear it was time for us to end the tour and say farewell.

He closed the show with “A Better Place.”

Daily we pray for grace and mercy as he approaches the final stages of this illness and are so thankful for the moments we see Glen being Glen.

Kim Campbell is married to country music singer Glen Campbell.

The Last Child to Nurse…The Last Child to Cuddle

October 20, 2014 by oldageisnotforsissies54 Filed Under: Family Life Leave a Comment

The following video is a monologue given by my youngest daughter.  She was chosen to be in the first “Listen to Your Mother!” show in Atlanta.  Tracy is a blogger and blogs at “The Uncoordinated Mommy”.

Tracy was my last child.  Since her monologue was about her last child, I can certainly relate.  Like her, I cannot remember breast feeding my oldest, but I remember trying to capture those special moments when I realized that Tracy Lynn would be my last child–that she would be the last to nurse, the last to cuddle.  It is a special bond, because you have total control and you realize it.  You want to hold on to that as long as they will allow you.

Below is her video.  It is four minutes long, but she captured those moments.  I was able to relive them through her eyes.

Life is a circle!

 

 

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